I’m beginning to think that the Disney Princesses are wrong for more than just their annoying high pitched voices, impossible physiques and general wetness
Perhaps worse than these is the idea that you meet your prince, ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after
It wasn’t so bad when that was the point at which the credits rolled and the more cynical amongst us could imagine that perhaps Snow White could be found hurling crockery at her prince or that Cinderella had a hissy fit over doing the washing up one more time
Thanks to the toe-curlingly saccharine Princess Magazines we now get a vignette of lives where the prince remains handsome and considerate and happily ever after really appears to BE happily ever after
Not for these princesses the harsh realities of the real world – the grinding monotony of jobs which make you feel utterly miserable but you are told you should feel grateful to have, the disputes over household chores or a prince that has put on rather too much around the midriff and has let his personal hygiene standards slip
Are Disney Princesses to marriage what Friends was to flatshares?
A version of reality that has absolutely no basis in reality and that just sets us ordinary mortals up for failure and disappointment?
I don’t know many people for whom marriage existed in the realm of happily ever after for longer than the honeymoon – heck I even know some for whom it started to tarnish before they got on the plane back home
Marriage is hard work – they say that sticking at it and working will be worth it but there are times when I struggle to see that when stuck on the treadmill of work, more work, commute, chores, family
And are you really ready to get stuck into the realities of trying to make a marriage work if you think that it is going to be all flowers, song and prettiness?
In the same way that we need princesses that look and behave like real girls perhaps we also need to see that they can cope with the laundry and putting a meal on the table that every single member of the family turns their nose up at?
Perhaps unless we start to show that marriage is hard work we are risking raising a generation that lust after the happily ever after without realising it is only a fairy tale
Or perhaps we need to start educating our boys to understand that women do need nurturing, flowers more than once a decade and that romance isn’t something that stops the second you walk down the aisle