I’m not sure if someone somewhere has realised that parents have the potential to be a powerful force and therefore the best way to stop us joining together and turning up at the gates of power wielding pitchforks and burning torches is to ensure that we are divided
Either way it feels to me that every day, in many ways people are trying to push wedges between parents
I feel rather uncomfortable reading about a budget designed to help the ‘hard working’ – how do you define hard working? Does the government not realise that most people are trying hard and in this current economic climate we are all working, harder, longer and trying to scrimp and save every step of the way
If you stand back from it all – surely the fundamental thing about being a parent, that holds true for almost every single parent, is that you are trying awfully hard to do the best you can for your child. End of.
Yet the media and politicians, in particular, seems determine to divide us into camps and to set us at each other’s necks on issues which shouldn’t be a major battle ground
Breastfeeding vs bottle feeding
The main point is that you are trying to do your best, that yes breastfeeding is great if you can and if you have the right support but formula is not poison and far better than letting your child starve
Co-sleeping vs cry it out
Different things work for different people, every parent is trying to do the right thing to install healthy sleep patterns in their child and every parent is trying to find a way to get enough sleep
Purees vs baby led weaning
People have different tolerances for mess and control, people have differing hang ups about food and how to eat – base line is we are all trying to ensure our children get a healthy diet that will help them to grow
One working parent vs two working parents
In an ideal world we would all be free to make the choices that work best for us and our families without money being an issue, unfortunately it isn’t like that and a whole lot of us are forced into places that don’t really work out for us. Surely we should be about trying to enable families to make choices rather than being forced to do (or not do) things that aren’t right for them
TV vs no screen time, free range vs helicopter, homemade organic food vs pre-made pouches, private vs state school, school vs home educating, babywearing vs buggies, brand new vs pre-loved and on and on it goes
Are these really massive divisions or have we just been made to feel that they are?
Parenting should be about looking at other parents and thinking we’re all in this together, trying to do our best
It should be about more of those moments where you find yourself trying to deal with a trantruming child in public and look up to see another parent smile at your with a look in their eyes of sympathy that says ‘I’ve been, I survived – good luck’
It should be about those incredible moments when a stranger, usually an elderly lady, comes up to you and out of the blue congratulates you on your delightful children
It should be about accepting that we do things differently and differently doesn’t mean that our choices are wrong or not respected but that other people have decided to do things differently, in a way that works for them and based off their life, their circumstances, their family
Together parents can be an almighty force
We all want the same thing – a better world for our children, support whilst we do our best to raise them as well as we can and more sleep
Are you in?