Happy Friday everyone (is it me or has this been a particularly long week?) – today’s rant is brought to you by Cat who has come over for a bit of a get-it-off-her-chest.
Over to Cat…
Hi everyone, my name is Cat and I’m a ranter
I’m here today as I’ve hit rock bottom. We all have our rant of choice, a gateway rant, and for me it’s the Mother in Law. It started as a little grumble under my breath every now and then, you know, just recreationally, when she’d comment about the state of the house when she visited.
Pretty soon I couldn’t get through seeing her without at least a quick moan to my sister or mum afterwards because she didn’t like my cooking or the colour of the new carpet. I’d tell myself I could stop any time, it was just a chat really, no harm done, but I knew I was getting addicted.
Then I had my first baby and my ranting really started to get out of control. The assumption that I need her pearls of wisdom on every aspect of my parenting leaves me barely able to make it back to the car before the ranting began and my poor husband was forced to endure my wrath all the way home (don’t feel too sorry for him though as I think he is really enabling my addiction by not ever telling his mum to keep her opinions to herself).
Sadly, one issue is about to cause my ranting addiction to overwhelm the last vestiges of my self control and lead me to vent directly at her: Food. More precisely her constant need to try and force feed my older son. I like to think I have a fairly balanced and sensible approach to feeding my kids which goes something like this:
- Kids need to eat a variety of healthy food in appropriate quantities
- It’s best to avoid all those additives and flavourings or things that are packed full of sugar or salt but eating them occasionally won’t do any harm
- We will decide what the kids will eat and they will be allowed to decide how much (within reason, obviously)
- We never force them to eat something but we will ask them to at least try some of everything on their plate
As a result my son, who has just turned three, eats a balanced diet with plenty of fruit and veg, has a healthy appetite and is the correct weight for his height. I’m not suggesting it’s the perfect system, there’s the odd phase of not liking something or wanting one thing all the time and it does mean some days he doesn’t eat much and some days he has loads but it works for us and we avoid most of those temper tantrums that are so common at this age (the food related ones that is, still plenty of tantrum about other things!). That doesn’t sound too bad, does it?
But apparently he’s a ‘growing boy’ (no kidding!) so what he needs is for her to pile his plate up (so full that he just finds it hard to eat anything) and after five minutes start badgering him with ‘don’t forget to eat some peas’ and ‘you haven’t had any potatoes yet’ and ‘have some more meat’ until the poor thing chucks a strop and says he doesn’t like it and won’t eat anything. Then to really push me over the edge she’ll declares I’ve turned him into a fussy eater! Ridiculous!
Just leave the boy in peace to eat his dinner. Can she not see why both of her kids were overweight as children? She acts like I’ve got him on a diet but in what world does having some kind of fruit/veg/salad with most meals make you a crazy health fanatic? I mean, one look at me should disillusion her of that idea. And even if what we fed the kids was totally loopy, isn’t that up to us, their parents?
Deep breath, phew!
Well, thanks to Hannah for letting me get that off my chest. Hopefully it will prevent me exploding next time we go for dinner. Maybe I need to find myself a sponsor and just keep working those steps. This is all anonymous, right..?
The Friday Rant Club is a chance to get those niggles, those irritants, those things that make you want to throw a toddler-stylee tantrum off your chest before the weekend.
Go on, let it all out and if you feel like it there’s a rather nice little button over there on the right to show you that you like a bit of a rant
I’m looking for some guest ranters – if you’d like to get something off your chest send me an email or mention it to me on Twitter. Any subject, just has to be something that has really got your goat.
Oh and on a slightly different note, do you fancy joining in our One Good Deed a Day challenge? Go on, you can do it & pass on the love