Funny how you rarely hear blogging fathers grouped together as Dad Bloggers.
Funny how men aren’t defined by their ability to have procreated but women are.
If a ‘working Dad’ takes his child to school he is applauded and held up as a great example of ‘balancing’. If a working Mum takes her child to school she’s a slacker and just not trying as hard as her hard working male colleagues.
If a mother starts up a business she’s a mum-trepreneur – hedged around with tweeness and the idea that being a Mum probably means she isn’t quite as good as your average male entrepreneur. God forbid that the media tycoons should admit that the likes of Sarah Curran who founded www.my-wardrobe.com might be entrepreneurs first and mums as well. Just like men are entrepreneurs first and Dads as well.
It feels to me as if people keep defining women firstly as Mums as a way for putting us back in a little box. A box that says oh aren’t they doing well as Mums… because they can’t possibly be as good as you know ‘real’ bloggers, or real entrepreneurs or real career women?
Perhaps we’re doing too well?
Perhaps because we are pushing forward and succeeding in our careers and endeavours as well as being great parents that branding us as Mummies is a way of slightly minimising those succeses?
I’m a Mummy and proud of it but being a Mummy is just one of many roles that I have – yes its an important one but it isn’t the sole role that defines me. Its also a new role, whereas my marriage, my career, my identity as ‘me’ are far more rounded and established.
So enough with the mummification!
We’re fab at all we do AND we are mothers too.
With thanks to La Douce Vie Suisse
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