But seriously, why is it only mothers who feel guilty?
Show me the fathers, the husbands who feel guilty that they work full time and aren’t with their children?
Show me the fathers that spend hours questioning their parenting decisions?
Show me the fathers that worry about their decision to support their child being breastfed or bottlefed?
Show me the fathers that fret about Gina vs. attachment parenting?
Show me the fathers that sit up in the middle of the night questioning whether their child’s diet needs more fish or less meat in it?
Get a group of mothers together and at some point the conversation will turn to guilt about one thing or another. Get a group of fathers together and the conversation is more likely to turn to some sporting event or gadget.
Why when Bigger asks me if I am going to play with her today on a working day I feel a stomach churning angst? When she asks Mr the same question he doesn’t have the same reaction. Yes he misses the girls desperately when he doesn’t get to see them, and yes he would like to spend more time with them but its not as if there is a degree of parenting guilt attached.
How does this happen?
Does someone inject you with a guilt inducing drug when you give birth? Is there some switch that gets flicked once you have a baby? Is this some strange hormonal kick in the teeth that Mother Nature thought was a good idea?
And how on earth can you get rid of it?
I like to think that I’m fairly immune to the guilt, which probably has something to do with the testosterone poisoning I got from my decade in investment banking, but occasionally it hits me and I’d really rather it didn’t. Is a sex change the only option?
The Friday Rant Club is a chance to get those niggles, those irritants, those things that make you want to throw a toddler-stylee tantrum off your chest before the weekend.
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