Number 1 is turning to me on honeymoon and saying ‘we should have done this sooner…’. Which given we hadn’t exactly had a whirlwind romance and it had taken us 7 plus years to stumble up the aisle was a little bit irritating to say the least.
Number 2 is him musing as to whether he actually should have worn a wedding ring.
Before we got married Mr Muddling was adamant that he would not under any circumstances wear a wedding ring.
Not for him.
For various reasons that came down to that he didn’t want to even consider it because real men didn’t wear rings and that he might have to take it off when sailing. Not that he sails much any more but there it was, that was his decision.
And my view that I would really like him to wear one fell on deaf ears.
Because you see I thought then and I still think that some physical indication of his married status would be nice. Yes he has collar stiffeners I bought him when we got married which have the same engraving as my wedding ring but they aren’t exactly something he sees all the time in the way I see my wedding ring.
Which is not to say that I think he needs reminding, or I think he’ll stray, just that I’d like there to be a physical reminder.
And its not that I think it acts as a hands off sign to other women (although perhaps it does? Or does it ?) but it does stand as a badge of honour and a willingness to show the world that you are married.
And one of the issues I have with him not wearing a wedding ring is that I perceive it as an unwillingness to show the world that he is married.
He on the other hand sees it as something unnecessary – why should he have to wear something to show his marital status.
But then why should he not wear something that shouts I’m married!
So what do you think? Should men wear wedding rings? Should women?
And more importantly can you go back later and start wearing a ring? Even if it wasn’t blessed, wasn’t there at the start?