And you know what, at least in my world, that really isn’t the reality.
Even after two children there is a definite limit to how much Mr Muddling and I would be prepared to do infront of another.
In fact, despite a low point after Bigger was born when Mr had to carry me to the loo and pull down my trousers (put it this way, after you lose a litre plus of blood it takes rather more than you have to get to the loo and yes, the downside of a homebirth is that your husband who isn’t good with blood or bodily fluids has to nurse you. Which incidentally he did brilliantly its just that this was very much for a limited time) we really aren’t into sharing to the degree that the TV suggests that we really ought to.
You see, call me old fashioned, but there are some things that really should happen behind closed doors.
Yes I know we share a life, two children, the world’s largest mortgage but I do not want him to be able to see every single aspect of what I do behind a closed bathroom door.
I admit that I’m a lot more relaxed since we’ve had the girls and go to the loo infront of them and might even wee with the door open and him in the corridor outside but that’s about as much as I can do.
Anything to do with menstruation, anything to do with the finer points of topiary, anything to do with the whole ugly business making myself look younger and beautiful happens with the bathroom door firmly shut.
Am I alone in this? Am I some kind of privacy freak?
Or are we this way because Mr wasn’t there throughout the whole childbirth thing? Does having your partner there in the room whilst you give birth do something different to your relationship?*
Or is it just that I am a traditional English girl and that yes, call it what you will, there is a limit to what I’m prepared to share? That nice girls don’t put their make up on in public and this is just a natural extension to that?
So do you do the film thing of sharing everything? Of there being nothing hidden, nothing unrevealed? Am I on my own or are there other people who have a limit to how intimate they can actually be?