This site has been outed by The Ministry of Truth as a fake – and interesting linked to climate change deniers
My brain is in turmoil – utter turmoil.
One of the unexpected outcomes of having been pregnant and had my children is that, if anything, I am more pro-choice than I was before. Before children I believed that women, that couples, had the right to decide if they wanted their child, if they wanted to continue the pregnancy.
Having now been through it, having felt like my body was inhabited by a small alien, having struggled through late pregnancy, having laboured and birthed I more than ever believe that women shouldn’t have to go through that process unless they really want to.
And then I read today that an American couple, currently 17 weeks pregnant, have decided to let the internet decide if they should abort their unborn child or not.
They have set up a website www.birthornot.com * and are soliciting others to decide on whether they become parents or not.
They have set up this poll in what they believe is the great American democratic tradition, saying that it will enable the public to “actually make a difference in the real world”.
They have disclosed on their blogs that they are worried that they will “eventually regret starting a family and “settling down”” and that they are concerned about the toll that the pressures of parenthood will take on them
The problem is whilst I respect their right to take the decision about whether they continue with this pregnancy, I am deeply troubled that they have effectively stepped back from the decision and allowed a faceless public to decide on what happens.
I am deeply worried that this is a decision that they will have to live by (I am assuming that they are serious, this does appear to be the genuine thing) and that they have put themselves and their decision at risk of being hijacked by pro-choice and anti-choice groups.
You see, for me, it doesn’t matter what the public think about any woman’s decision about whether to continue with a pregnancy because it is her decision. Its a decision that she has to take and that she will have to live by and no outside can tell her what is the right answer for her in her specific and unique circumstances.
Allowing strangers to make the decision for you seems plain wrong – you are allowing someone else to impose their views, their circumstances, their prejudices over your life and then for them to walk away whilst you live with the consequences.
I did think about voting. I seriously considered it. But then I stepped away. I remembered that I really don’t know more than what this couple have chosen to put out into the public domain and I don’t know if that’s the whole story. I don’t know if my knee jerk reaction is the right one for them, I don’t know what is the right choice for them.
So, would you vote? Could you vote? And is this taking democracy to a place where it really shouldn’t go?
Here is a link to an article in the press about the website and with more information about the couple
*If you do click on the link to the website, please be aware it has scan photos on it