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Is it possible to fall back in love?

If you read this blog regularly then you may remember the whole Getting my Mojo back thing earlier this year. I haven’t really updated on that since, well, after one lovely weekend away just the two of us, things went back to largely how they had been previously. As in not much of anything, not much in the way of affection, or time together.

Admittedly it was largely driven by Mr Muddling being frantically busy at work – its hard to do much if you aren’t around or exhausted when you are around.

I got more and more miserable and just sort of assumed things might get better at some point. If I’m being honest I even considered whether to outsource the whole thing – not that I’m sure there’s much interest in a frumpy, tired, ratty mummy. Didn’t consider it very much because where would I find the time for something like that.

So life pottered on.

Except recently things seem to have changed a bit.

Mr is a bit more considerate, a bit more affectionate, a bit more like the person I used to like.

We even had a fun dinner out together at the weekend (thank heavens for a good babysitter) and have made plans to go out and have fun together rather than separately. Things feel a bit more hopeful, a bit more together, a bit more possible.

So who knows, is it possible to fall back in love with someone? Even after having been divided by a chasm that seemed to be insurmountable?

Have you done it? Can it be done?

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15 comments to Is it possible to fall back in love?

  • busyhobs

    >I'm sure/hoping you can! I can relate to what you are saying and I’m sure it happens to most parents; kids tend to not leave much time for grownup love.

  • Mwa

    >I truly 100% believe it can be done. I was almost sure we were headed for divorce after #2 was born, and somehow we managed to come all the way back from that. We went from could-hardly-stand-to-be-in-the-same-room-together to, well, making #3. 🙂

    Good luck!

  • Emily O

    >Based on personal experience (which I choose not to blog about) absolutely YES. Having children can be the most testing and trying experience you go through as a couple. I think if you're with someone a long time you have to expect some peaks and troughs during that time, but if you can both stick together through the tough times you'll be stronger for it. Here's hoping!

  • Hearth-mother

    >Definitely. And I was completely with you on the getting Mojo back. I think that's the first part, because you have to learn to love yourself again after babies!

  • Anonymous

    >found your site on del.icio.us today and really liked it.. i bookmarked it and will be back to check it out some more later

  • Domestic Goddesque

    >I have to believe it can be done because I'm about to start on the hardcore challenge of getting *my* Mojo back (still maintain we should have called the dog Mojo…would have been easier to get her back. *Sigh*)

  • naomi

    >Yes it can be done – with the help of a babysitter and grandparents!

  • Posh Totty

    >Yes it is definitely possible, been there, done that and very happy about it too :O)

  • Anonymous

    >I have talk about my ups and downs with hubby a lot and we went through a bad patch too, we seemed to have got through it but like you i realised nothing has actually changed its just me trying ignore his crappy behaviour and its actually me keeping our relationship peaceful.

    I'd like to think you can fall back in love and i love my hubby but sometimes i really don't like him xxx

  • Anonymous

    >Like linda commented it's correct

  • vegemitevix

    >It is possible. I do believe that. So pleased you are finally having some fun together. xx

  • Anonymous

    >Bit of a cautionay tale here. Went through the exact same thing after my ds was born, husband took a promotion which meant working away from home midweek and just seemed to have no time for each other, by the time he got home he was so exhausted from travelling and I was so exhausted from work and effectively being a single parent for most of the week. Anyways, things started to get better we started getting back to being us, he started making more of an effort. Turns out the extra effort from him was guilt from the affair he had began.

  • Anonymous

    >Completely. Been there, done it. Several times (all with the same husband!).

  • This Mid 30s Life

    >I think it's wonderful that you're actively working on it. The worst thing, and probably the easier option, would be to think "well that's that" and keep muddling along.

    It's not always going to be beer and skittles b/c that's life, but you're meant to have fun together.

    Good luck!!

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