I really must stop reading the comments on the Daily Mail site. So much vitriol and anger, so little time.
I read a column in the paper where Lorraine Candy admitted she was upset that her nanny was leaving them. Been there, done that, still really miss Super Nanny. We all do.
Reading the comments people seem to think that hiring a nanny is only something the rich, those that can afford not to work do.
This may have been the case in the past but now it just isn’t true.
Cost-wise, with two young children in what would need to be full time childcare for 12 hours a day, a nanny actually works out cheaper for us than paying for a nursery or a childminder around here (and that assumes we’d have been able to find them both places at the same nursery or childminder).
We’d also lose the benefit of having the girls looked after in our own home – I leave them in their PJs in the morning and come back to find them washed, brushed and ready for bed when I get home. I don’t lose the time taken to drop them off or collect them which is a huge benefit.
I also get a LOT more flexibility. If I am running 10 minutes late because of train problems or my boss’ fondness for wanting to ‘have a quick chat’ as I try to rush out the door then that’s ok. Yes we have to make it up at other times but I’m not being fined £25 for every 15 minutes I’m late or facing the stressful prospect of increasingly irate carers wanting to leave my children sat on the street (ok they’d never leave them but they have other places to be and things to do). If I did it more than a few times I’d risk losing my place.
When I had to leave my 5 month old to go back to work I wanted her to have something as close to what I’d do if I was at home and a nanny ticked all those boxes.
Asking around nannies are far more prevalent than the Daily Mail would have us believe. Parents I know aren’t all mega-buck earners and its just that this is one of several choices and the one that works best for them. Sometimes they’ll share with another family, sometimes the nanny will work separately for two or more families to fill a full time week. The bottom line is that its a flexible choice and actually once you get past one child isn’t the most expensive option.
Daily Mail people please get over the ‘only the rich can afford nannies’ thing – I can afford a nanny because I work, I fortunately earn more than I pay out to her and to the Inland Revenue but if I stop working I can’t afford to keep her on (and pay her tax, or my tax…)
And yes, if you think that I shouldn’t be working full stop then you are entitled to that view but please go and talk to the people on the Daily Mail who think I’m a rubbish mother because I work.