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>I’m a Mummy but I’m a lot more too

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There have been a few blog posts lately, over at Rosie Scribble and Mumsrock amongst others, exploring whether the use of the monikor Mummy Blogger is a good or a bad thing.

For me, being described as a Mummy is a bit of a sore point right now.

When it comes to work, I feel as if certain of my colleagues are highlighting my recent return to work and the fact I have children as a way of talking me down, pointing out my lack of commitment, focusing on the fact I am different from the rest of them – I’ve always had to deal with being different from my predominantly male colleagues but somehow being a mother has made me even more different.

The thing is, being a Mummy is just a part of who I am, a big part at the moment, but just a part.  I consider myself to be so much more than a Mummy and that by just focusing on the Mummy part I feel as if people miss out on all that I have to offer.

This blog reflects those different pieces of my jigsaw (hence the lovely new header!) and isn’t limited to Mummy things but to aspects of my working, family and wider life.

Yes I’m a blogger who is a Mummy but there’s a lot more to me than that.

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12 comments to >I’m a Mummy but I’m a lot more too

  • TheMadHouse

    >You see that is the issue I have with lables, we are all much more than our individual parts.

  • Heather

    >I used to work in a male dominated environment and you saw this a lot. funny that it never seemed to make a difference to the way people looked at new fathers, but new mothers, or mothers with school aged children, were treated like they didn't matter. their opinions weren't valid, people stopped taking an interest in them and taking them seriously.

    And yes, I do think mummy blogging is looked down on in a similar manner outside of the mummy blogging circles. i have read a lot of comments and posts about how mummy bloggers are all fluff and not interesting or valid blogs.

    But like any label, it is just a load of old rubbish. Sadly, it's not something many people see.

  • Mediocre Mum

    >I was terrified of losing my identity when I had madame as I've always been fiercely independent.

    I have a friend, mum of 3, who says she now is only referred to as 'so and so's mum'. So far I've managed to avoid this.

    I think a good test is to look back at blog posts and if you've only posted about your kids this may have happened.

    Your analogy of a puzzle is great and I, too, like to think of myself as a mum who blogs.

    Cheers,

    Chrissie (www.mediocremum.com)

  • notSupermum

    >We do like to compartmentalise people don't we? The Mummy blogger label has so many connotations for different people, and I can see why you're particularly sensitive about it right now. Being a new mum returning to work is hard, but don't let those colleagues wear you down. You're still the woman you were before, they just need to get their heads around that.

  • Holly Homemaker

    >Amen sister!

  • cartside

    >That's the beauty of "mummy bloggers" – we are all so much more that's why I'm happy to be called a mummy blogger, it doesn't limit me, as other blogger labels do. As long as other "mummy" bloggers demonstrate that it's not just about blogging about being a mummy!
    I can understand the difficulties of the term though, it does still have the "less than serious" connotations, which I see as a challenge to embrace the term and kind of change it's meaning. It won't come overnight! (I do have moments where I wish that "mummy" was not in my blog title though…)

  • Jen

    >'Mummy Bloggers' does have a negative undertone to it but for that I find the blogs brilliant and love them. It is a dismissive title sometimes though. Why not 'parent bloggers'? 🙂 Jen.

  • marathonmummy

    >I think anyone who knows a mother (that'll be everyone, then) knows that there's far more to us than nappies and sick. I think we need to reclaim the term mummy blogger as something to be proud of.

    (ahem)

    My name is Rachael, and I'm a mummy. I'm also a writer, a runner, an artist, a gardener, a blogger, a freelance researcher, and lots of other things.

  • Hot Cross Mum

    >I guess any kind of title is limiting in one way or another, but I think I know what you mean. We are all much more than our blogs – maybe we should all post a full CV!

  • rosiescribble

    >I'm sorry your situation at work is so difficult. I really hope it improves because that can't be pleasant for you. I'm feel quite deflated if it were me. I'm aware my post caused others, inlcuding Mumsrock, to react with posts that I did feel were a little harsh,to out it mildly, that was never my intention. I said this on my blog in the post that followed. I was trying to say that we are mummies and so much more as well. I said that I proud to be a mum and I'm proud to be a mum who blogs. We are all a very talented bunch with so many sides to our personalities. That's all I was trying to say.

  • Babies who brunch

    >it's weird, the mummy tag. it's the best one in the world. yet it's also used as a put down – eg when describing an outfit etc. i did it myself the other day without thinking, so pretty much everyone is guilty.

    feeling bad about it is wrong though. but it can be tricky.

  • scribblingmum

    >I know what you mean about the work thing. I have found it much harder returning after baby 2, I certainly feel like there are certain people who treat me like I've no longer got a brain. And I found that the women can be worse than the men, those ones that are all career. I agree with you, my blog is about who I am and one part of me is a mum but I'm more too !

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