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One born every minute – convincing me why homebirth rocks!

I’ve finally got around to watching One Born Every Minute which is a fabulous documentary following the labour ward at Southampton Hospital.

And to be honest watching it makes me INCREDIBLY glad that I had both my births at home.

I didn’t have to deal with receptionists, tick box checks and must dos before my midwife could engage with me and my labour.

I wasn’t left to labour with a husband who clearly didn’t want to be there and was no support.  Instead Mr Muddling got to be around but not involved and I had a trusted midwife to support me.  Ok that’s not exactly true for Babygirl’s birth when I was on my own for all but the last 7 minutes but I somehow knew Babygirl wouldn’t arrive before Lynn.

I had someone I trusted implicitly to tell me what was going on and to help me labour positively.  Someone who wouldn’t make me lie on my back on a bed but would help me get into positions to make labour effective.  Someone who would hold my hand, comfort me, reassure me and not shout at me.  Someone who was quietly there throughout – talking when I wanted, quiet mostly and calmly in control.

Someone who would respect my personal space, respect me as a woman and a mother.

Someone who wouldn’t just give me a little injection but would let me decide on whether to have a natural 3rd stage (even though I’d haemorrhaged previously).

And what makes it incredibly poignant is that there was a chance that Babygirl might have been born at that hospital if the premature labour I had in Newport had got any worse and we’d had to be transferred.

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15 comments to One born every minute – convincing me why homebirth rocks!

  • Heather

    >I have heard about these forms and check boxes you need to do before giving birth in the UK and it all makes me quite confused. Out here in Finland it was wonderful to be in the hospital and have all these knowledgeable and kind people around, there was no stress, no forms nothing felt forced on me or anything like that.

    Such a shame that Britain isn't the same. Or maybe it depends which hospital you use? I don't know.

  • karamina

    >The difference between my hospital birth and my home births is so vast I can't really put it into words. In fact I just went and read one of my birth stories to remind myself how wonderful it was and now I'm full of happy memories. You're right – homebirth rocks!

  • Holly Homemaker

    >I haven't homebirthed myself but I have heard such glowing stories from mothers. Having heard all this, I find it unbelievable that the Australian Government has put plans into motion to outlaw homebirthing! Power to all the homebirthing Mamas out there!

  • Emily O

    >Yes homebirth is a brilliant experience compared to hospital. My first birth was very medicalised and traumatic, my third was amazing (and I never thought I could describe birth as that!). Have been meaning to say I've tagged you with the sunshine award

  • Stefanie

    >I think I was very lucky in that I had a very positive hospital birth experience (in a midwife led unit). The 2 midwives that looked after me (one happened to be the midwife I had had throughout pregnancy so it was great to have someone there that I knew) were very supportive and let me walk around, adopt every position I wanted to and encouraged me to have the water birth I wanted. I didn't feel pressurised or bullied into doing anything.
    The only fault I have is that they weren't around enough as the unit was fully occupied that night and they were one nurse down. So it was just my husband and I for most of the labour but they were there when I needed them.
    I had considered a home birth but ultimately I was glad I was in hospital as I had to go straight to surgery afterwards and I got the care I needed immediately.
    From what I have heard though I was lucky; the hospital is very new and the midwife led unit great. Unlike so many hospitals you here about!

  • Jen

    >I can't say I found the hospital red tape too bad, maybe we have less of it in Ireland too? I did hate the hospital though as it was impossible to get to sleep with all the crying newborns, it was such a relief to get home. It isn't called labour for no reason and one needs a good sleep afterwards:) Jen.

  • cartside

    >I'd really considered homebirth for no.1 but in the end decided against it. My hospital was great though, no tick boxes (at least I have no recollection of it) and I was allowed to labour in a massive birthing pool until my waters broke, without having to worry that our 100 year old tenement flat floor boards may not be able to sustain the pool. I still don't have the guts to go for a home birth – my labour was so long and complicated at the end and the hospital is not near. I so envy people who managed to have a home birth, it must be an amazing experience.

  • make do mum

    >Sadly I was never going to have a homebirth seeing at the house was like a building site! In the end going to hospital was right for me as I has complications after the birth (although the attitude of staff was terrible and made the Southampton Hospital look like the Portland!) Maybe next time?!

  • Hot Cross Mum

    >I'm not great at watching those sort of programmes, but I admire your support for home births. I may be wrong, but it doesn't seem to be encouraged here in Ireland – the option was never even mentioned to me. My first baby had complications immediately after delivery so I am glad we were in the hospital as it turned out.

  • Amy

    >I'm so glad I've chosen to have a home birth this time. I've had my fill of hospitals and midwives telling me how i feel and what I should be doing. This time it's my way and I'm looking forward to it xx

  • Nova

    >I'm an advocate of home births too. So much less stressful….I just want to be allowed to walk around and do what I want when in labour not be strapped to a bed and be monitored. x

  • Young Mummy

    >I was never keen on the idea of home-birthing, but eight nights in hospital after having the twins was an unpleasant wake-up call. If I'm ever brave enough to consider having another (!) I'll definitely be opting to stay at home.

  • Katherine

    >I didn't have a home birth but if I was to have a number 4 I def. would (not going to happen though; sig. other has had the SNIP!!). My 3 expereinces were very different; #1 and#2 were born in the same hugely busy Manchester hospital but #2 was a domino so it was in and out; #1 wasn't quite so positive. #3 was born in a lovely little midwife led unit and it was wonderful water birth; however, the powers that be decided that this lovely little unit needed to be shut down 🙁

  • Mwa

    >I love the idea of a home birth, in principle, but I felt very reassured by the hospital professionals. My babies both got very stuck and had to be dragged out, and I was happy to be where I was. (Whatever works for you, right?)

  • Gappy

    >After one traumatic hospital birth, I opted to stay at home for the next two, and as a result had incredibly positive experiences both times.

    I would encourage any woman with a low risk pregnancy to consider it as an option.

    Always lovely to hear about other womens good experiences of birthing at home. Thanks.

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