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>Am I being unreasonable about my mother in law?

>OK I need some external input here – I don’t think I’m being unreasonable but then I wouldn’t would I ?

Just had my mother in law to visit and despite Mr Muddling asking her not to she persists in calling Toddlergirl her ‘best girl’ BUT we now have two girls and I don’t want Babygirl to grow up thinking she is second best so I’d prefer her not to do this
You’d think she would realise it creates problems because she told me how 2nd grandson said that 1st grandson was her ‘best boy’ when she asked him who her best boy was …
So short of stabbing her with something blunt or cutting in with ‘ignore Granny Babygirl, she’s a mad old bat’ I’m not quite sure what to do … blah!
So am I being unreasonable here ?
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15 comments to >Am I being unreasonable about my mother in law?

  • Brit in Bosnia / Fraught Mummy

    >No, we have similar issues as well.

    Could you ask her to say 'one of my best girls' or something similar? Or give them both a cuddle saying 'you two are my best girls'.

    MILs. The jokes are there for a reason…

  • Brit in Bosnia / Fraught Mummy

    >Oh God. Hope my Mother In Law doesn't read your blog.

  • Vix

    >Nope, entirely reasonable. Mind you I think my inlaws are totally wasting time by doing the whole breathing thing…

  • Pippa

    >My Mum use to do this to Top Ender before my sister had kids. Now she doesn't say it at all, but has other phrases that she uses!

    MIL's are so darn difficult! I got lucky though I have two!

  • The wife of bold

    >Thats so annoying! Lets hope she DOES read this so you don't have to say anything, i can't imagine her stopping though even if you do question her on it – they always think they know best argh!

  • MuddynoSugar

    >You don't pick the in laws …v. annoying, I usually hold it in, hold it in some more and then become completely unreasonable and say something I regret! Award at mine.

  • make do mum

    >Ah, I am in good company then! I just left a ranting post on my blog about my MIL visiting.

    Honestly, they are a law unto themselves. I'd go for your 'mad old bat' route 🙂

  • Hot Cross Mum

    >How incredibly annoying. Probably a case of having to bite your tongue – or doing the talk to grandma through the children things i.e. 'isn't grandma silly saying that, you're BOTH her best girls aren't you'. Usually works, but then again…….!

  • BNM

    >I have issues with my MIL too….

    At the moment Bel is their favourite as Car is too young but I hope this will change

    I'm thinking of selling mine on EBay,do you think anyone will buy her?


  • Then There Were Three

    >Would it be wrong if I said just got and stab her with that blunt instrument……..

  • Muddling Along Mummy

    >FM – is your MIL that technologically minded ? Fortunately mine isn't … I hope !

    I'm so glad I'm not alone in this … Mr Muddling sort of gets my point but doesn't have the whole being wound up and up by it that I do … still he's lovely which does make up for it

    Now selling her on ebay might be a good move … wonder how much the going rate for a MIL is ????

  • Mwa

    >Of course you're right! Children are so sensitive to that kind of thing.

  • solveig

    >I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. But, I do think it is very easy to pick on things that you would otherwise let go when it comes to the in-laws. MIL is probably just trying to make sure Toddlergirl feels loved and not put out by the new arrival. It still doesn't mean she should carry on doing it though, particularly if you have asked her not to – and especially given the grandson thing.

    My MIL (and FIL!) can drive me insane at times, but I also know that sometimes if my parents did exactly the same thing, I'd let it go.

    But, regardless, I'd go for the ebay route…!

  • funkyhan

    >very reasonable. My grandma always had a favourite, and it HURT me, even though I don't remember her actually saying it.

    How about her saying "My big girl" rather than "My best girl" ?

    It rather assaults your self confidence to hear this coming from a loving family member, and especially as a child.

    Also, should toddler girl be brought up thinking she's better than baby girl?!?!

  • Laura

    I don’t think you are being unreasonable….I would start to correct her each time she says it, something like one of the best girls or something like that….then she’ll change her language? Maybe?

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